I feel like I am in no position to write this post, as I feel a little off track at the present moment. My to-do list keeps being pushed over to the next month as time runs away faster than the wedding budget, and most nights my brain runs over time thinking of ideas or what colour nail polish I will wear on the day (it varies!). But there are moments, pockets if you will, when I’ve realised that I actually made it through some very difficult patches in the wedding planning journey. Thus, I thought I’d share what little knowledge I do have, but I would LOVE if you could share some of your own advise on how to keep perfectly sane in the middle of the chaos of planning a wedding. More specifically, your own!
Look after yourself!
Do you remember those times in school, right in the middle of exams where you were so focused on studying, you forgot about shaving your legs or even washing your hair (maybe that one is just me). But basically it can be very easy to let yourself go when you’re so caught up in wedding planning. My health is the last thing on the list of things to worry about, and it shouldn’t. If I want to look my best on my wedding day, I need to feel my best from the inside out. That means eating right, exercising (not to loose weight, but stay fit), taking care of my skin, my teeth, my hair and nails. It also means taking care of my mental health. I like to watch Keeping Up With Appearances or Mr Bean, my favourite British comedies that allow me to destress and not think about the wedding, even if just for a little while.
Indulge a little!
If you know me, you’ll know that ‘indulge’ is one my life mottos! I believe sometimes you need to treat yourself to something that makes your soul feel good. Sometimes that’s a hot, relaxing bath with a fee candles, or a scoop of ice cream, or doing a manicure, or even just reading a good book. Whatever it is that feels a little extra-ordinary to your day to day. During the wedding planning, when a lot of the focus can be on saving money, indulging doesn’t have cost a cent and there’s no need to feel guilty.
Quality time with the fiancé!
My fiancé and I have decided to wait until marriage before moving in together. This means that I only get to see him weekends, and because we both live very busy lives, it’s maybe for a few hours. In that time I talk Wade, my fiancé, into a tizz! There’s so much stuff about the wedding I need to tell him or discuss with him, that I just want to vomit all the information in one go. When everything is wedding talk, our relationship takes a back seat and we have to remind each other to present in the moment. When we get a chance, we have Sunday lunch together, or go attend a theatre show or live event. Small acts that remind us that it’s about us, not the decor and flowers, or what music the DJ will play.
Your people and your tribe!
I’ve mentioned this one right in the beginning of my very first Wedding Diaries post, and I cannot stress it enough. Being surround by people who only want the best for me, encourage me, love me even when I’m a crazy bridezilla, and constantly pop my bubble to bring me back down to the ground, is the best thing ever! I could never do this alone, and I’m so happy to have people to lean on, cry to, laugh with, get an opinion or advise from, or even just lend an ear when I need to vent. I love my bride tribe for always surprising me with gifts and so being such an awesome support! I love my people!
Watch wedding shows!
This one may be a little evil, but watching wedding shows like Bridezillas, or Don’t Tell The Bride really brings such comfort knowing that there are people having a worse experience than me. (Sorry!) But it makes me feel like my problems aren’t really that big, and I actually can handle them. It’s also great to get some other ideas, and share in the experiences of other brides. Don’t watch the wedding shows where the couple has no budget with lavish weddings. That is not a good idea. Maybe just keep to the ones where things are falling apart.
What are some of the ways you stay (or stayed) sane while planning your wedding? Let me know in the comments down below.
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